One of the key principles of Reference Point Therapy is Beingness. As you know, RPT is a profound tool for personal transformation. It works by doing as little as possible. The core themes are “Beingness” and “acknowledgment”.
I’m happy to report that after years of talking about, I can now present to you our explanation of Beingness.
Beingness is a concept taught to me by wonderful “spiritual coach” Soleira Green.
Acknowledgment is my own choice of word for the fundamental energy of all successful healings. I’ve introduced both these concepts before (for example here). However I haven’t really defined Beingness in writing before, and nor had Soleria. We all knew what it meant, but it’s another thing to be happy to put it in words.
Soleira first introduced me to Beingness when she heard me say something like “well it was Creator / God that did the healing, not me.” That’s an old fashioned view which really sells ourselves short, it damages our sense of Being. I’m ever grateful to Soleria for restoring my sense of Being and for showing me how to state “I created a miraculous instant healing” without ego. More about this distinction here.
Soleria has published this definition of Beingness on her website.
We define Being as the totality of you, on all the levels of yourself, the deep eternal inner and the expansive, greater you. Every Being is unique, different and wondrous in their own ways and we believe that everyone has brilliance, genius and greatness within them. The power of Being is unleashed when we become the power of the cosmoses at work through us, delighting in the creation of all things amazing and new. This is where our true power lies, where creative action springs from and where passion and vision meet reality.
Short and powerful!
Here’s my (longer) explanation:
Beingness for (those pretending to Be) Beginners
When I ask you to Be your Beingness, I’m asking you to honor and acknowledge your own divinity, your own spark of Godliness. It’s You I’m talking about, nothing more (you don’t need to look “upstairs”) and nothing less (so stop selling yourself short).
We have been trained for thousands of years to seek God above and outside of ourselves. Beingness is (in a sense) the God inside. Except – and this is important – it’s not inside you at all. It’s not inside except in the sense that it’s certainly not outside. Rather, it IS you. No, not the little you that most of you see when you look into the mirror. The other you, you know You, with a capital Y.
Your Being is not in your heart. It IS your heart. It’s not in your soul, though it IS your soul. It’s not in your aura, not your mind, not your DNA, your higher self, your biology, nor your ideology or spirituality. Rather your Being is ALL those things, the sum total of all of that and everything else that makes you You.
You cannot say what your Beingness is NOT, because Beingness just IS. Beingness Is. (Yes, that’s a complete sentence.)
That automatically tells you 2 of the most important things about Beingness. There’s nothing that Beingness is not. And there’s nowhere (no one place) that Beingness is, hence there is no place it is not.
Put simply, your Beingness is your expression of I AM. When you state I AM Powerful, you bring your Beingness into feeling (pretending to be) powerful. When you state I AM weak, you allow your Beingness to pretend to be weak. In truth you are neither weak nor powerful, since both these terms are locked in duality. You aren’t strong, or good or bad, pretty or ugly. But if you want it badly enough you can pretend and your whole Beingness will grant you that experience.
Do you get it yet? Everything you have ever been, that was your Beingness pretending, squeezing into the shape that you choose. The reason you haven’t seen your full Beingness yet is that you’ve only been chasing its shadow. The shadow is what you see while you are still pretending to be what you are Not.
What happens when you stop pretending to be what you are not? What happens when you pretend to just be the infinite, electric, expansive source-full Being that you are? When you do that, when you move into Beingness, you bring all of yourself into play. This is called coherence. Coherence means that you are sending a clear message out to the “universe” (which is really your Self). Instead of focusing on all the things you are not, you allow your minds to cohere. When your heart, your brain, your body, your soul, when all your selves become one, you can truly state “I AM”. (And yes that’s also a complete 2 word sentence). That’s truly Being.
When you create (or heal) from a place of Beingness you aren’t creating with your brain, or your heart, rather you create with every molecule of your self. It’s as if every atom in the universe is working with you. Your coherent Being is literally all powerful since it – strictly speaking – is the Creator of all that is. That’s right -YOU.
So stop feeling small sorry for yourself and start playing BIG.
There, I hope that helps. So go one, stop playing small and just Be.
You’ll notice I dropped another key RPT word in that definition, “coherence”. That’s another key word that explains a lot about how we create instant healings. I’ll be teaching you how to achieve that next week, so stay tuned to this blog.
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Thanks to Soleria for reading and commenting positively on my definition of Beingness. You’re a great friend and source of inspiration to many.
A big thanks to Austrian RPT teacher Sasha Tscherni. His questions about Beingness versus Oneness encouraged me to email Soleria and workshop my definition with her. Sasha is doing some wonderful work promoting RPT in Austria and Germany. Please contact Sasha if you are wishing to learn RPT in German.