Dear friends, this blog post is an article that was published in the March 2012 edition of Into Light Magazine. I explain several of the key processes in our Level 2 course. This information has never been published on this blog (or anywhere) before. Enjoy!
Where science meets healing:
biological secrets that re-define your approach to therapy
Healing techniques – all of them – could be thousands of times more effective if turned inside out. Corporate lawyer turned healing researcher and instructor, Simon Rose, explains how.
How you were conceived – those vital first moments when mother met father and sperm met egg – carry a signature that can determine everything about your life, your health and ability to form stable relationships. Those vital moments, known as Key Developmental Events (KDEs), hold the key to a radical new approach to healing which is just beginning to turn the healing world upside down and inside out.
In this article, I’ll show you just one of the ways in which this information turns the healing world upside down and inside out. You can use this information to achieve extraordinary results, whether in your own healing journey or to assist you as a practitioner.
KDEs are not just one more piece of the puzzle, like one more thing on a very long list to clear. Instead, this information can potentially replace years and years of therapy, eliminating the concept of digging through your issues like layers of an onion.
The concept of KDEs comes from amazing biological research in the fields of consciousness or enlightenment research [#1] and the science of epigenetics. I call this field “frontier psychology” and I guarantee that over the next 10 years it will turn every healing technique and hopefully mainstream psychotherapy upside down.
To appreciate how radically new this approach is, please allow me a moment to digress with a summary of what I call the “traditional” approach to healing.
Navigating the healing journey
Reading through the pages of this magazine, you would be forgiven for being confused, even overwhelmed, by the wide range of healing techniques and therapies on offer.
They techniques are very different. Yet, in a specific sense, they are the same. Here is how I represent the traditional approach to healing:
Notice how much time is spent identifying the problem and searching for its cause. Some therapists devote an entire session (or sessions) just to really understanding the client’s problems, so that they can then find the cause. Many more sessions might be spent searching for the cause. Some healing is applied (whether it is a talking therapy, spiritual therapy, energetic therapy or so on). The process is repeated as many times as necessary until the client is satisfied with the results.
And the results? You’ll probably agree with me when I say sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t! At best there is some luck involved, such as did the client and practitioner (1) correctly identify the problem; (2) find the true underlying cause; (3) apply the correct technique; and (4) repeat as many sessions as were necessary. The difference between a new therapist and a master practitioner has a lot to do with control over these 4 variables.
Turning this upside down
In my view, starting with the problem and searching for the cause is like putting the cart before the horse. It’s the long way home. The only reason people use the traditional approach is that up until now, there simply wasn’t another way.
So let’s look what happens if you put the horse before the cart for a change:
You can immediately see how much simpler this approach is. It is vastly more efficient than the traditional approach to healing because the causes of most human suffering are already known. You can stop searching.
What does this mean for me?
- You don’t need to talk about your childhood – no more “tell me about your mother” ever again;
- You don’t need to talk about abuse or painful memories;
- Never relive or re-experience pain or trauma during the healing process;
- Very easy for clients who don’t like regression or hypnosis;
- No need for the therapist to know or suffer from hearing the client’s trauma (known as secondary trauma);
- Incredibly high success rates (up to five times higher than traditional healing); and
- Very low-cost personal growth because clearing each KDE clears symptoms that could have taken hundreds of hours of therapy to identify let alone clear.
I trust you can see the potential for this approach of putting the horse before the cart. The potential is there to make your healing journey – and your life – a LOT smoother.
You can probably see that everything rests on knowing the precise KDE to work on. Fortunately this work has been done for you. Whilst it’s beyond the scope of this article, I’d like to briefly share a few KDEs so you have a sense of how powerful this approach is.
Introduction to the Key Developmental Events
There are 10-15 key moments in the development of our biology which are the most significant in determining our health, wealth and personality. Of these, the most significant ones relate to the moment of formation of the egg and sperm and the moment when these 2 united as one.
Where do I come from? The story of the egg and sperm
The egg you came from was created in your mother whilst she was at about three months’ gestation inside your grandmother. This means that you are, in a strict biological way, directly influenced by the environment that was present when your grandmother was pregnant. That was back before the days of no drinking, smoking or sushi! Any trauma or toxicity present at that time is written into your cells. This is not an ancestral or inherited trauma. Your original egg cell was physically there.
The same applies on the father’s side. Men start to produce sperm at puberty. It turns out that trauma and toxicity at this time influences the genetic blueprint passed on to their children through their sperm. A simple example: if a man starts to smoke before puberty, his children will have much more health problems (e.g. obesity or diabetes) than the children of men who started smoking after puberty. Just knowing this fact opens new doors for the treatment of weight and hormonal issues, because now we know that they are epigenetic problems – relating to the blueprint present in the sperm and egg. [#2]
The next most significant biological moment is fertilization – the moment when sperm and egg meet. This moment profoundly influences your life.
I find it easiest to explain this through metaphor. At fertilization, the cell wall of the egg is penetrated by the sperm. To me, the cell wall represents a metaphor for our inter-personal boundaries. When a client pretends to be the egg and visualizes the strength of this cell wall, what she describes to me is a perfect description of her own boundaries. Empowered people, those who can easily say “no,” always describe the egg as strong and in control of the fertilization process.
Many of my clients have suffered abuse – physical, sexual, mental or emotional. Without fail, these clients describe the lining of the egg as weak. They relate to feelings of violation in the egg as it is penetrated.
What is really incredible about the metaphor is this – when I apply the healing tools to clear the cellular trauma of the egg, the client can no longer find any trauma from abuse. I have had clients who have been abused their entire lives; hundreds if not thousands of different gut-wrenching incidents of violation. Using “traditional healing” it may be necessary to discuss, process (and sometimes re-live) these traumas. Using this egg fertilization exercise these clients can clear every trauma without telling me a single painful story and without shedding a tear. What’s more, at the end, their boundaries are strong and they feel empowered to say “no.” The cycle of abuse has been broken.
Relationships and addictions
It might amaze you to know that the patterns you attract in relationships are a re-creation of trauma you experienced as a fetus in your mother’s womb. [#3]
It is somewhat inevitable that a fetus will experience shock or trauma at some point during gestation. Imagine a heavily pregnant woman bumping herself getting into a car. The fetus experiences a mild sense of shock. Inside the womb, the fetus reaches out to the mother for security. This reflex is one of the deepest, most hard-wired human instincts.
Inside the womb, the fetus “feels” whatever the mother is feeling, and a strong association is made between this sensation and the fetus’ own survival instinct. For example, if a mother is hurt in a situation where she feels fear, the fetus associates this feeling of fear with its own instinct of searching for security. It is an association, not a belief system or feeling. Associations are the “language” of our deepest brain, the reptilian brain.
As an adult, this person may become an adrenaline junkie. They are addicted to attracting fear, because it is only in fear that they feel that they are gaining security. This isn’t meant to sound logical (it’s not stored in the frontal brain which allows logic). This is an association made on a very deep level in the reptilian mind. It relates to our own instinct for security –the strongest of all animal instincts.
This particular KDE explains the type of partner that a person attracts. For instance if you have a client that keeps attracting the same type of man/woman, for instance violent men; there is a related pre-natal trauma. A common example: the mother is abused and the fetus picks up on the feelings of violated. As an adult, the client keeps attracting violent men. You can save her from one relationship but the next month she is dating an identical man. Why? Because in her reptilian mind (which makes the core decisions about safety), she has associated the search for security with feeling vulnerable or violated.
Pre-natal trauma defines our choice of partner for sexual relationships, friendships and business partnerships. We all have this type of pre-natal trauma. It is the hidden factor influencing our career, relationships, body shape, addictions, etc.
You cannot counsel a client out of this behavior. You cannot use logic to change a behavior pattern that is held on the level of instincts.
Most healing techniques work on a mental level (e.g. counseling, changing beliefs) or energetic level. Very few techniques work on the level of survival instincts, and only those techniques are completely effective to change these associations.
There are at least 10 more of these biological points – each one an amazing story of biology and each corresponding with different aspects of our physical, emotional and spiritual well-being.
In addition to these biological points, there are three of what I’d call “spiritual” developmental events. The points are the act of conception (the experience or story of our parents at our conception), the creation of our soul and the ensoulment or meeting of the soul and biology. Each of these three points can carry significant trauma, and clearing them creates a profound shift in our personality and wellbeing.
Results speak for themselves
The proof, they say, is in the pudding.
Since we started working with KDEs in 2008, the success rate we have achieved for our clients has increased five-fold. Not only do people clear the real hidden cause of their problems, they do so without the trauma associated with digging or regressing back through layers of memories and drama.
We have had people with serious diseases, such as congestive heart failure, experience instant remission after clearing the in-utero trauma.[#4] Many of our clients have had a lifetime of psychotherapy, only to discover after a session of clearing KDEs that they simply have no trauma left.
The nest time you try to heal yourself or a client, ask yourself whether you are putting the cart before the horse. Are you searching blindly for the mysterious source of all your suffering, or would you like to be lead directly to the source?
[#1] See Grant McFetridge (et al), Peak States of Consciousness: Theory and Applications, volume 1 (2004) and volume 2 (2009).
[#2] These examples come from the incredible new science of epigenetics. For an excellent introduction to epigenetics I recommend Richard C. Francis, Epigenetics: The Ultimate Mystery of Inheritance (2011) (available on Amazon).
[#3] I am indebted to McFetridge for information on this particular KDE.
[#4] The congestive heart failure story and other testimonials are available here: http://www.referencepointtherapy.com/Testimonials.asp
Simon Rose is an internationally successful businessman, lawyer and investor who discovered a passion for merging scientific research with spirituality. Together with his wife Evette, he developed a series of powerful science-based healing techniques remarkable for their simplicity, speed and effectiveness. His work is taught by 30+ teachers across Europe, Asia and America. Simon and Evette are excited to bring these techniques to New Zealand for the first time in April. For more information visit www.ReferencePointTherapy.com.