Being and Acknowledging

In today’s blog we share with you a few pages from our Level 1 manual on how our technique or therapy actually works.

As you’ve read over previous entries, we’ve taken out the smoke and mirrors. There’s no invisible friend or invisible energy doing the work. It’s just You.

So what exactly is doing such miraculous work? We believe that when you strip away all the layers, what’s left is the amazing power of acknowledgment. We suspect that acknowledgment is the only reason why any healing techniques work – and it’s the lack of understanding about this that explains why all techniques sometimes work and sometimes don’t. By understanding acknowledgment you too can get 100% effective results in healing yourself and others.

From our Level 1 manual:

Healing is a very over-used word. We use it in RPT out of convenience – people know what we are talking about. However RPT is not really a healing technique.

Healing is an active verb, it’s a Doing. Allowing acknowledging are passive verbs, they are not actions. Acknowledgment in particular is a state of Being rather than an activity. When you Heal you use energy to bring change (whether you believe it is your energy or from a higher source). When you Allow you simply acknowledge what’s so. This acknowledgment restores the Grace. Your goal is to Be with the client. Gandhi said “Be the change,” not “Do the change.” Release the need to DO anything in the healing process.

This is a big shift for most experienced practitioners who come to RPT. They have been so programmed with “doing” that when we teach them to Be they still feel they have to “do” something. Most of the steps you will see in this manual are invented for the benefit of these people who feel there’s something they have to do. Watch closely as Simon and Evette demonstrate a healing and you will see they are not actually doing anything at all!

What you resist persists

The best way to explain the power of acknowledgment is through the wise old adage “what you resist persists”. The more you resist a problem the more energy you give it. This is well known. What’s less well understood is that “fixing”, “healing” and “changing” are all part of the resistance. They are all part of the problem – pouring energy into the situation.

Example: If someone has a migraine and they try to heal it they will do many things – perhaps take aspirin, send energy, meditate, command it away, etc. Some of these things might even help in the short term, but are unlikely to prevent the migraine occurring the next time the same conditions arise. All the person ahs done is resist the migraine. The whole time the intention is to “turn down the volume” on the migraine. Instead, the person could Be the migraine. They could actually imagine “turning up the volume” on the migraine. In doing so they come briefly into full acknowledgment of the migraine. If they can acknowledge the purpose or association of the migraine (such as “Oh, I get migraines when I have to complete my tax, it is really serving me), then the migraine can disappear.

This example is simplistic, the point to it is that everything we do enables us to resist the problem (to turn down its volume). Instead if we Be with the problem, maybe even turn up the volume to be really present to it, it ceases to have power over us. If what we are acknowledging is the cause, the problem will instantly disappear. For this reason, we must acknowledge (or at least pretend to acknowledge) the earliest reference point. [We will come back to the notion of pretending in later blogs.]

If you really got to the earliest reference point then the simplest intention of acknowledgment of the trauma or association will shift all the person’s trauma and all associated beliefs, patterns and disease. If it doesn’t instantly shift, if you feel the need to use energy or commands, then you haven’t truly found the bottom.

When practicing RPT on yourself it’s important to be able to love yourself and see yourself as perfect. If you find this a challenge, start by working on someone you love, then “transpose” yourself in their place to send yourself that love.

“Be the change”

Part of Allowing is “Being” the change.

Healing modalities that require you to do things (anything involving connecting, commands, energy work, etc) will all suffer the same drawback – doingness comes from ego. It begs the question “who is doing?” which begs the bigger question “could someone else do it better?”

Stop doing. The universe is perfect and there’s nothing that needs to be done.

Instead, just BE. BE The Change. BE Perfect.

Practical exercise: Be the change

It’s so simple, that many people will struggle with it! It’s actually the simplest thing in the world. Stop your ego or “little self” doing anything. Instead allow your “big self” to just be with it.

The steps are:

1) Be All That Is

2) Pretend to be the client

3) Acknowledge the intention (e.g. release this trauma back to the point of origin)

4) Be the change, allow the client to “be their Beingness.” You might imagine this as an expansion of the light around them as their Beingness expands. Another way to describe this is that their “little self” (mired in ego) becomes their “big self” (their own creator), free from this trauma.

You do not need to DO anything. Just acknowledge the trauma (i.e. “be with it”), and then allow change (i.e. “be healed”).

You may find at first that it’s difficult to NOT do something. This is just an old ego habit. For instance the ego wants to be important in the healing. Just observe that habit and release it.

A “trick” (if that’s the word) for beginners is to do this out loud. Forget the above steps. Just listen to your client, and ask them to measure their pain, stress or discomfort out of 10. Then take a few minutes to repeat back to the client everything they told you. Use the words “I acknowledge…” several times. If you heard what they were really trying to tell you (whether or not you used your intuition to read between the lines), you will find that their pain, stress or discomfort has gone down or perhaps has completely gone. What people really want is acknowledgment.

When you combine this simple observation with the tools for finding the earliest reference point, you have an incredible effective tool for physical and emotional healings. You have Reference Point Therapy.

October 8, 2009 in Thoughts For the Day

5 Responses

  1. hi, u mean if I acknowledge my friend’s emotional pain, her pain will go down? that is it?


    simonrose Reply:

    hi, that’s *almost* it.

    If you acknowledge a person’s emotional pain it might go down (it should but no guarantee).

    However if you acknowledge the underlying CAUSE of the emotional or physical pain it will go away – probably permanently.

    So the whole point of RPT (or really every single therapy) is to find the true underlying cause. It’s a true “race to the bottom” and the one who wins gets the Nobel Prize for Medicine! :-)

    I wont say we have perfected it, but we are getting great results using a combination of the triune brain model (described on this blog) and the Beingness process. There’s a few tweaks which is why it’s a 2 day course to get it right, but really that’s enough to get you started.

    So once again – don’t acknowledge the symptom, acknowledge the cause.



  2. Hi Simon,

    If the cause needs to first be acknowledged, then how can this be followed by a release if we are not required to “do” anything? Perhaps I am unclear on what is involved in the “releasing” process.

    Would these same steps be required for a practitioner who would want to do work on their own self?

    Thanks so much.


    simonrose Reply:

    hi Murray

    Acknowledging is the Being/doing of RPT. Yes there’s an action or word involved, but it’s not a process. You can be in Beingness and still “do” something. I wrote an article just on this point, it’s the Sex as a metaphor for Beingness post, please read it if you are still confused about this point.

    Yes, it’s the same process for working on yourself.



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