Sex and Beingness

They say sex sells anything, maybe even enlightenment?

Dear friends

Thanks to all of you for your wonderful support on this new blog.

I’ve had a number of people ask me both on this blog and the forum to write more about Beingness.

Today I want to share some thoughts about Beingness versus Doingness. Oh and I’m going to use sex to teach Beingness. Stick with me, this should be a fun ride.

On our last blog article about Beingness, I discussed the difference between Being and Doing. I mentioned that most healing techniques are “doing” techniques and we put RPT in the category of Being.

As you probably know, RPT is a super-fast healing therapy that works through Being conscious with another person, without needing to “do” much – at least not in the sense of having rules or procedures.

Several wise readers have contacted me to point out that even in our healing therapy, there is a doing. Put another way, any time you are moving, thinking, doing anything except sitting with a silent mind, then you are doing something. So they reasoned, how can you ever really Be if there’s always the “do”?

My answer is that doing is not exactly the same thing as activity. Doing is when you get stuck in a process, or when it’s the steps that matter. For instance if you are healing through using commands, tones, symbols, channeling energy etc, then the process is very important. These are doing techniques. A Being technique is one where the intention matters, not the process.

Where does the sex come into it Simon?

I was thinking about this the other day and I thought “it’s like sex really isn’t it?”

Do you understand the difference between having (or “doing”) sex, and making love? If so, then the analogy to Being and Doing should be easy. I think that making love is a state of Being.

You don’t need to move to make love. Or you could be very, ahem, active. Either way it’s about Being with your partner. Having sex on the other hand is all about the activity and the process. If you were sitting still you could not be having sex. One is a process, the other is a state of mind.

I don’t think I can explain Being versus Doing better than that!

You might think it’s funny that I’m using sex to teach important spiritual concepts. Actually, it’s not that strange. Those who’ve taken our Level 2 course know that the biggest topic on the course is “where do I come from?”

We ask that in the Being sense, not the physical “doing” of conception. It’s the energy or consciousness of our conception that determines, for most of us, the level of consciousness we can achieve in this lifetime.

That may be a new concept to you, but it’s not new. According to the last 20 years’ research from Grant McFetridge, based on pioneering work from Stanislav Grof (and others), we know that what makes some people enlightened and others unenlightened is mostly the energy of our conception. This is the entire basis of therapies such as Peak States, and it’s an important piece of information that we apply in our Level 2 course.

So, there you have my answer friends. Be busy little bees, do as many actions as you want. Just remember it’s not the action itself that matters, it’s the state of mind. That’s Beingness!

In my next post (tomorrow) I’m going to share with you my definition of Beingness, something I’ve been working on for a while.

Did this explanation help you? Please share your comments, thoughts and suggestions here and on the discussion board (


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February 28, 2010 in Beingness
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3 Responses

  1. From the Bhagavad Gita:

    “He who seeth inaction in action, and action in inaction, he is wise among men; he is a yogi…”


  2. “…It is just the same with ourselves. We must first be before we can do, and we can do only to the extent to which we are. We cannot express powers which we do not possess; so our doing necessarily coincides with the quality of our being…” – Thomas Troward (1847 – 1916)


  3. Valeria Moore

    Making love…each partner must be fully present. There is a blending of energies to the point where there is no longer a definition between them. The partners no longer have conscious awareness of where one partner leaves off and the other begins. In that beingness they are their partner. It is a complete balance of the energies. There is no doing. You cannot do something and achieve this. It starts as a separate feeling and the two feelings merge without force, without doing.


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